I can't see what he's talking about.
My Mom says he's just like me. Ha! Joke's on you kid. As I have mentioned before, I'm a terrible parent. If you need proof, please refer to my upcoming parenting book.
When I ride my bike, I have thoughts. Usually they are thought about bikes. But sometimes they are thoughts about other things.
Today, I was thinking about why I get yelled at so much. Not at work. And only sometimes at home. No, mostly I get yelled at in traffic.
I don't think I deserve it. Usually I am not doing anything particularly dangerous when I get yelled at. Sometimes, I have made a mistake, but often, I'm just riding along.
I have often wondered why, but I think I have figured it out. See, it's like babies on airplanes.
|No, not snakes on a plane|
|What's your trigger here?|
Anyway, people are amazing in their capacities for triggers. In fact, we don't even need to have experienced the bad past event; it's enough if someone just tells us about an unpleasant event for our trigger to be put in place. For instance, if you told me that at Cedar Point, there are many "line jumpers" who will get in line ahead of people alread waiting, I would be on the lookout for them next time I go. And my pump would be primed - I'd be ready to get angry.
|Photo from lolercoasters.com. Worth a browse.|
|Get out of the way! I'm trying to get these cookies to the open house while they're still hot!|
What are your triggers? Can you let go? What if that mother with a baby on the plane is taking the child to meet his father, who has been stationed in Kuwait, for the first time? Would that soften you? Or if you knew that the mother was already exhausted and was flying to help move her mother into a rest home? What if the guy you flicked off in traffic turned out to be your favorite elementary school teacher?
Beyond basic survival, triggers are just an unnecessary evolutionary vestage. We don't need the extreme emotional response anymore - there are no saber-tooth tigers chasing you. So let it go. I'm examining myself to release some of my triggers. What about you?
Go be brave, just do it calmly. And don't yell at strangers.
Your beer pairing:
Bell's Kalamazoo Stout: A good stout from one of my favorite breweries.
Mainly because, like the fuzzy face above, I have been told that I bear some similarity to the guy on the label.